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Feels Like Home

In Uncategorized on September 26, 2015 at 9:42 pm

One of the questions I get asked most often as a cruise ship worker is ‘how do you cope with being away from home for so long’. The answer is more complex than you might think. Over the years I’ve discovered that for me, the concept of ‘home’ is just that, a concept, and a very fluid one at that. Wherever you FEEL at home, to me, is home! More often than not, it’s people who make you feel at home. You hear it said all the time ‘home is where the heart is’…..that’s not just a cliche. Therefore, I’m quite often at home in the most unexpected places. 
Of course, let me preface the rest of this post by saying that I miss my family the most, wherever they are is home. And I have fabulous memories of my hometown and other cities I’ve lived in. That being said, I have two examples from my last vacation that illustrate precisely what I’m talking about. 
This past vacation I was fortunate enough to spend some quality time with two women who are very near and dear to my heart: 
Jaime Dee is an amazing cruise director from my Carnival Sunshine family whom I worked with last contract. I’ve known her less than a year, but feel as though I’ve known her my whole life. We can run around the ship or in port having adventures, or doing work, and are somehow never bored. She is one of the most caring, funny and intelligent women I’ve ever had the pleasure of meeting. We get along like a house on fire so when vacation time rolled around and we happened to be off work at the same time, we made plans to spend some time together. I flew to Texas to meet Jaime, and although we didn’t travel far and wide, it was one of my favourite vacations to date. Somehow it felt like coming home, I felt like I’d always belonged there even though it was my first visit. Jaime and her family made Texas feel like home, for that entire visit, there was nowhere else I’d rather have been. 
After Texas, Jaime and I flew to Las Vegas, and enjoyed some great shows, good food, and adventures. From there, Jaime continued her vacation elsewhere, and I met up with another incredible woman. 
Chelsea Webb and I have been friends for close to, if not longer than, a decade. We have seen each other through heart breaks, triumphs, and everything in between with no judgement. We’ve lived in the same house and we’ve lived thousands of miles away from each other. No matter what, she supports my achievements, picks me up after disappointments, and keeps my secrets. These days we don’t get to see as much of each other as I’d like, but whenever we can, it’s always an adventure. Chelsea and her beautiful dog Phish, met me in Vegas and we drove back to Victoria in her truck (Her Majesty). For those of you who aren’t sure how far that is….it’s about 2,100 kilometres to Vancouver and then an hour and a half ferry ride to Victoria. That’s a long time to be in a vehicle with a person. For every one of those 2,100+ kms, that truck was home. We laughed, had dance parties, took a thousand selfies, and talked about life. For that entire road trip there was no where else I would have rather been. 
At the end of the day, I never have to be away from home for as long as people think, because I have some amazing people in my life who make sure I’m never far from home. I am very fortunate to have a half dozen of these such people in my life. These wonderful ladies are two perfect examples of how I find a home in unexpected places. Wherever they are, the world is clearer, more centred, less chaotic. It’s home. 

  
Chelsea, Phish and I on a hike. 

  
Jaime and I in Vegas. 

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  1. Erica,

    Thank you so much for writing this and making me feel so special. I am so grateful to have you as a friend. You are one of the most fun, loyal and caring people I know. Thanks for letting me into your world. I’m going to miss you so much when I return to the ship and you’re not there but I know that when I do get to see you it will be as though no time has passed. Thank you for co inf into my family and spending some of your shirt vacation with me. I love you.

    Jaime

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